bitch-betta-dont:

missymalice:

one of my biggest pet peeves is when people are like, “i don’t care, my significant other can go through my phone. i have nothing to hide.” 

okay. first of all.

wanting a partner to respect your privacy doesn’t necessarily go hand in hand with “having something to hide.” maybe you’d just prefer that they trust you without putting you under surveillance like a fucking prisoner? 

second.

it’s not only your privacy. if you’re cool with that shit, i really hope you’re informing all your friends and family members who discuss their personal lives with you that they should be prepared for your shitty SO to read through all their messages to you, but i’m betting you’re not doing that. 

maybe your bestie from high school doesn’t want your boyfriend seeing her emotional messages about her recent breakup? maybe your sister doesn’t want him reading her messages about struggles with her kids or her marriage? maybe your friend with mental health issues isn’t counting on you sharing their struggles with anyone else? 

maybe you should grow up and realize that if your partner loves and respects you, they’ll believe you have nothing to hide without checking for themself. 

I had a friend who’s boyfriend went through her phone and got pissed at her for conversations she had had with our group chat. I was pissed that he had done that, I was pissed that she wasn’t mad at him for it, and I was pissed that I felt like my privacy had been violated because when I sent those messages to my friends, I sent them ONLY to my friends. I shouldn’t have to monitor what I say to a friend because her boyfriend went through her phone.