winterwombat:

kalcl:

kalcl:

As someone who changed his name just for fun when I thought I was still cis, i promise most people are ok with accepting a new name, even if you lie and say it’s a nickname. I promise. It’s really easy to just casually go “hey I wanna go by Bob now, it’s an old nickname I wanna bring back” like. Just start introducing yourself to new ppl, no one knows better. and if someone accidentally deadnames you just go haha no I go by my nickname now.

It sucks that ppl treat nicknames as more sacred than trans ppls choice names but still.

If ur cis u can totally rb this to help ur fellow trans friends out thanks

Asking cis people to respect your choice of name: “Of course, no problem, easiest thing in the world.”

Asking cis people to pass up a chance to shit on you for being trans “Well, I’m sorry, but you’re always going to be (deadname) to me.”

Same shit as when people suddenly get all worked up about NB folks using singular “they” pronouns, but otherwise use the singular “they” all the time without even noticing it. They’re not uncomfortable with what we’re asking, they’re uncomfortable with who we are.