caitcosplays:

thatsnotwhoifuckingam:

destrochao:

harzburgite:

there’s nothing wrong with admitting you were once toxic.

there’s nothing wrong with admitting you made a couple people feel like shit.

there’s nothing wrong with admitting you fucked up and were horribly arrogant and parasitic.

there’s nothing wrong with admitting you did anyone wrong, especially if you’ve learned from it. If you’re humble enough to admit it, I guarentee there’s a bit of a good person inside of you. 

On the other end of the spectrum, there is something very wrong with refusing to grow as a person. There is something wrong with point blank refusing to acknowledge that you have ever done anything wrong. That logic is for none but children and fools.

Yes. Yes to all of this.

This especially goes for people who have certain mental illnesses where some of the symptoms include toxic behavior like personality disorders. I have BPD and before I had my symptoms under control, being my friend, especially my favorite person, was so stressful. I was needy and overbearing and obsessive. But its not okay to say “well thats just how I am” and refuse to change it. My disorder was making me act like a bad person so I decided I needed to get control of it, practice mindfulness and self soothing, let the people I cared about live their own lives, and voice when I was feeling ignored or in need of reassurance and attention. I learned to say “hey can you give me some attention because Im feeling down right now” instead of being passive agressive and getting angry and sad when they didnt or in some cases couldnt get the hint because they had their own issues. Im still working on it. And Im sorry for how I acted in the past. Thats the key. Being sorry that you were acting that way and actively working to change it.